Ashirbaad : Al Buddo Bhaat Gai Halood / Haldi Uptan. Shaka Paula Boijotri . Potto Bastra. The Wedding. Shubh Dhristi / Exchange of : b) Kanyadaan. c) Hasta Milap Sindoordaan Bashar Ghar. Vidaai. Bride’s Reception. Bahu Bhaat Reception. Phool Sajjaya
|The Ashirbaad: “The engagement”
engagement ceremony is not a religious function but gathering of both families having discussions, negotiations and the fixing of marriag date.Gai Halood / Haldi Uptan:”Anointing the bride and groom” The ‘Gai Halood’ takes place on the dawn of the wedding day. A paste of turmeric and scented oils is applied on groom.This is a function filled with fun and laughter, where his relatives, especially the girls, mercilessly tease the groom! The same paste is then sent across to the bride’s home for her ‘Gai Halood’ ceremony, which is much more elaborate. .
Shaka Paula: The bride is adorned with coral and shell bangles by ‘sumangalis’.According to this seven married women or ‘sumangalis’ adorn the bride with coral and shell bangles.Boijotri:” The wedding procession”The bride’s maternal uncle comes to fetch the bridegroom, his family and friends and escorts them to the wedding venue.
|Potto Bastra: “Welcoming the groom” Groom is welcomed with boron containing a lamp honey,yoghurt & betel leaves by the elders of bride family & presented with Shawl & .dhoti.The wedding: “Actual wedding rites divided into following segments”:Shubh Dhristi / Exchange of garlands: “The couple exchanges garlands” Her face is covered with betel leaves, which are moved apart to enable the couple to make eye contact for the ‘shubh dhristi’ (auspicious ‘viewing’ of each other).The couple now exchanges garlands and the groom proceeds to the ‘mandap’ (marriage platform) followed by the bride.Kanyadaan: “Giving away the bride “Amongst Vedic chantings the bride’s parents symbolically hand over their most precious gift, their daughter, to the bridegroom.Hasta Milap: “Tying of the marital knot” The hands of the couple are tied together in a symbolic knot and the bride is officially handed over to her husband-to-be.Saptapadi:” Seven steps around the sacred fire” The couple takes the seven steps of matrimony around the sacred fire.Sindoordaan: “The groom applies vermilion on the bride” Groom applies the ‘sindoor’ or vermilion powder on the parting in the hair of his bride to establish her marital status.Bashar Ghar: “The groom stays back in the bride’s home” Groom stays back in the bride’s home without his family members. The following day is spent at his in-laws amidst a lot of teasing and entertaining by the younger generation in the ‘bashar ghar’ or ceremonial room.|
|Vidaai:” Bridal send off” ‘vidaai’, the bride takes leave of her parental homeBride’s Reception: “Welcoming the bride in her marital home “On entering the home, mother-in-law gives her daughter-in-law a fish (in the olden days is used to be a live fish!) to hold, while she waits for the milk to boil over (symbolizing a house overflowing with food and affection). Bahu Bhaat: “Formal acceptance of the bride by her in-laws” Bride is formally accepted by all her husband’s relatives through the formality of the ‘Bahu Bhaat’. Reception: Post wedding celebrations”The groom’s family generally hosts the wedding reception, which is a formal function to introduce the newly weds to family and friends. Phool Sajjaya: “The bride is bedecked with jewellery made from flowers” On the third night after the wedding ceremony, the bride is bedecked with floral jewellery, a custom very special to the Bengali community.|
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