aryan wedding customs

In India, the wedding rituals and customs in any family are mainly based on the religion or community that the family follows. The community only decides the kind of wedding ceremony that a couple would have. There are many people in India who don’t believe in these specific and staunch rituals or grand and elaborate celebrations of the Hindu wedding function. For them, who are not so particular about the rules and regulations of their religion and community or want to keep their marriage a low key affair, Arya Samaj Marriage is a very convenient wedding option for them.
An Arya Samaj wedding is conducted by the Arya Samaj, founded by Swami Dayanand Saraswathi in any of its temple. The marriage in Arya Samaj wedding is performed as per Vedic rites and thus does not require any flamboyance. In fact, simplicity is the main essence of Arya Samaj wedding. Though the Arya Samaj weding is meant only for Hindus, any non-Hindu can also be allowed to undergo the marriage rituals if he undergoes the process of conversion through Shuddhi i.e. Purification.Shaadionline give some brief details on the rituals and customs performed in Arya Samaj Wedding.For More details Rituals and Customs log on

  Madhuperk:Once the bride and groom have entered the ‘mandap’ the Vedic rites begin, the first one being the ‘madhuperk’. The bride gives the groom water three times. The first time he sprinkles it in his feet, the second time he sprinkles it all over his body and the third time he drinks the water. ‘Madhuperk’ is a mixture of curds, ‘ghee’ or clarified butter and honey. The groom sprinkles a little bit of this in all directions and then eats it three times.Kanyadaan:” Giving away the bride”The bride’s parents offer their daughter’s hand in marriage to the groom and he accepts it.Havan: “Lighting the sacred fire”To invoke the blessings of ‘Agni’ or the God of Fire, the ‘pujari’ lights a sacred fire or ‘havan’ to the chanting of Vedic mantras. There are two types of ‘havans’ – the ‘sadharan’ (ordinary) or ‘vishesh’ (special). The ‘vishesh’ havan is the chanting of mantras and praying to all the ‘Divyashaktis’ or forms of God. The main ‘prarthana’ or prayer during the lighting of the ‘havan’ is the ‘prarthana’ of ‘grahast jivan’ (married life).
Pani Grahan Sanskar: “The groom vows to look after his wife”
The groom stands up and takes his bride’s hand in his and chants mantras, promising to look after her till her old age and keep her happy at all times. He accepts her as his ‘poshya’ (meaning that he will provide for all her needs). The bride and groom now take one ‘parikrama’ (circumvention) around the fire.Shilarohan:”Using the rock as a symbol of permanence”The bridegroom chants a ‘mantra’ and the bride’s mother places her daughter’s right foot on a stone. The rock is a symbol of stability, permanence and firmness. The bride’s position in the groom’s home is now permanent and together, the couple will face all of life’s challenges like two solid rocks.Lajahom: “Sacrifice offered to the sacred fire”Laja’ is puffed rice, a symbol of prosperity. The bride’s brother stands behind the couple while the couple faces each other. The bride places both her hands into the groom’s and her brother then puts the puffed rice into them. Together they offer this ‘laja’ as an ‘ahuti’ or sacrifice into the fire amidst the chanting of mantras.This ritual is performed three times and each time the mantras chanted have a different meaning. Parikrama: “Circumventions around the sacred fire”The couple goes around the sacred fire four times, each ‘parikrama’ (circumvention) strengthening the bond between them. The first three times the bride must lead the groom, as she is the embodiment of Goddess Lakshmi. It is only after the fourth ‘parikrama’ that she becomes the ‘ardhangani’ (wife) and is now her husband’s responsibility. After the completion of the ‘parikramas’ the ‘pujari’ ties the bride’s sari ‘pallav’ to the groom’s ‘angavastra’ (a scarf tied around the shoulders), with three knots.
Saptapadi:”Seven steps around the sacred fire”These are seven steps taken by the bride and groom together, each step has significance.Hriday Sparshmantra: “Vows taken”The bride and groom place one hand on each other’s hearts and chant ‘mantras’ together. The meaning of these ‘mantras’ is – ‘ I am installing you in my heart from this day onwards; I will be loyal to you; this alliance is made in Heaven; let us ask the Almighty for His blessings’.Sindoor: “The groom applies vermilion on the bride”’Sindoor’ or vermilion powder is the sign of a married Hindu lady. The groom applies ‘sindoor’ in the center parting of the bride’s hair and also ties the ‘mangalsutra’ around her neck.Dhruvnakshatra:” Viewing the Pole Star”The couple is now instructed to look towards the Pole Star (‘Dhruvnakshatra’) amidst the chanting of ‘mantras’. The Pole Star is always firm in its place and the vow means that ‘I will live permanently with you’.Arundhati Nakshatra: “Invoking blessings from Arundhati and Vashisht”Arundhati’ was the wife of the sage ‘Vashisht’. The ‘Arundhati’ and ‘Vashist Nakshatras’ are two stars joined together and appear as one at all times. Ashirwaad:”The blessing”Now that the marriage rites have been completed, the newly weds are blessed by all the elders. Everyone present showers coloured rice or ‘akshat’ on the couple.
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